Two years ago, I let a colleague kiss me. I’ve been married for more than 20 years. I love my wife, but all I can think about is my colleague. Why can’t I forget about that kiss?

Dushka Zapata, Three time book author.

When he kissed me we were sitting on his mom’s white leather sofa. His hand felt strong and hot around the nape of my neck – flat against the small of my back – tangled in my hair.

How is it that his kiss burned itself so clearly into my memory and yet what my memory recalls is anatomically impossible?

I will tell you how. That decades old kiss is infused with fantasy. It’s a dream kiss, unrestrained, wondrous, imagined. It happened – believe me, it happened – but it’s since been adulterated by my internal design. That kiss is a flawless invention.

Reality is grittier. It’s every day, it’s laundry and a sink full of dirty dishes. It’s coming home tired after work. It’s you, the one I sometimes wish was different, the one who misses meeting my expectations and falls short in small, disheartening ways.

That kiss: an apparition, a fancy, paradise, my perfect hallucination.

You: here, concrete, true, disappointing.

One is escape. It’s what our imagination does when we need a break from what we’ve got.

when doing photo shoots of models in lingerie,do you ever get sexually excited ?

Michael Creagh, Professional Fashion Photographer for 16 years in New York City.

Yes, but it’s different than the average person thinks. Photographers are just human beings and we are a diverse bunch from different countries, genders, cultures, ages, years in the business and sexual persuasions…. we all think differently. But many photographers grow used to seeing sexy people undressed, so are standards for arousal meet different requirements.

I also want to note: I know many of these questions on Quora have an extra cultural component where some people from certain countries have a hard time understanding Western European culture’s ability to separate sex and nudity. Just because a woman is not wearing much clothing does not mean she wants to have sex or that it is okay to try to initiate sex.

In my experience, photoshoots can be fun (they can also be hard work). You meet new people and have nice conversations. Often the people are super beautiful and very sexy. But I have photographed over a thousand people in their underwear or less!! Michael Creagh (@michaelcreagh) • Instagram photos and videos — Seeing a beautiful young woman in her underwear or nude is very normal to me, and I generally get ZERO sexual arousal. None at all, no fooling. I enjoy the experience, and it is kind of cool to see a sexy person you don’t know naked. Sometimes I feel a personal intimacy/closeness to the subject, like we shared a moment….. and love creating beautiful imagery that the model, myself, and most everyone else really enjoys. But the moments are just not sexual. That is a really important distinction that you can feel. I often don’t know the people well and even if I wanted or tried to have a sexual encounter, it would most likely fail and could even greatly offend the person and maybe lead to lost work and maybe even arrest. There is no built in sexual component to a sexy shoot.

The models don’t feel sexual, so if I did, it would be weird or awkward. I would probably make the subject really uncomfortable and then they would not want to shoot more!! I think people imagine that a comparison would be like if you were hanging out with some hot friends and two of them took off their clothes for a selfie or strip poker. But it is really nothing like that, because that has a sexual component in it.

Let me give you a better comparison. Imagine if you were slow dancing with the new brand new girlfriend at your prom and you started to get physically aroused. It might be embarrassing, but that would be semi normal and acceptable. It might even be an unconscious body signal to her that could lead to something like kissing. Now imagine walking up to a friend of a friend at the same dance with an erection…that could lead to some messed up situations!

For photographers, I think they need a different stimuli altogether. They need situations that start to put that sexual component into a situation where it doesn’t exist. So sometimes, you meet people on photoshoots that you really connect with. In a different situation, you might end up going on a date. So if you like each other and there is flirting and fun, and more subtle touches than one would expect…..now when that person gets in their underwear, all bets are off. There might be some arousal! But that is something about connecting with people. It is dependent on so many factors, like are you single and open to new relationships? It is going to vary greatly, person by person and by age, sex, and overall ability to connect with hot models. But you’d be surprised at how many pro photographers are just not looking at models that way.

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The 5 easiest visas to get in the world

As per article published in MSN following countries changed their visa policy to attract tourism.

Azerbaijan 

Recently, Azerbaijan  changed visa policy, getting a visa to visit the country was a long and torturous process with no guarantee of success. Then the authorities surprised us by introducing an electronic visa.
 as per new visa policy the whole process of getting a visa to Azerbaijan is  simplified. Everything is done online and the visa is issued after only 2-4 days. The fees are significantly lower too. These days it costs a measly $20.


Cambodia 

Cambodia  making the process simpler and faster. The application only takes 2-3 days and the visa is emailed to you once it’s issued.Crossing into the country from Vietnam, Laos or Thailand? Not a problem. Cambodian visas can be obtained on arrival at most major border crossings.

Sri Lankan

Simply fill in an online form and press 'Enter'. Your Sri Lankan E-Visa will generally be issued within 24 hours, without hassles, interviews or letters.

Tajikistan

Tajikistan introduced an E-visa, simplifying the application process to the point where you can submit your application online with just a copy of your passport. The visa is issued in 1-3 days. All you have to do is print it out and take it with you on your trip. Simple and easy, exactly as it should be. 

Vietnam 

Visa not required for UK citizens travelling to Vietnam for under 15 days don't need a visa at all. Simply turn up and you’ll be issued an entry stamp on the spot.Planning to stay in Vietnam a little longer? Visitors who plan to explore the country for up to 30 days can apply for an electronic visa. The processing time is only 1-2 days and the whole process is done online.

Symptoms commonly associated with a migraine

Symptoms commonly associated with a migraine

Symptoms commonly associated with a migraine include

1. The pain is usually a severe, throbbing, pulsing pain.
2. Increasing pain during physical activity or when straining.
3. Inability to perform regular activities due to pain.
4. Feeling sick and physically vomiting.
5. Increased sensitivity to light and sound, relieved by lying quietly in a darkened room.
6. Some people experience other symptoms such as sweating, temperature changes, stomach ache, and diarrhea.
7. Confusing thoughts or experiences.
8. The perception of strange, sparkling or flashing lights.
9. Zig-zag lines in the visual field.
10. Blind spots or blank patches in the vision.
11. Pins and needles in an arm or leg.
12. Difficulty speaking.
13. Stiffness in the shoulders, neck, or limbs.
14. Unpleasant smells.
15. unusual severe headache
16. visual disturbance
17. loss of sensation
18. difficulties with speech

In most cases Mega dozes of Vitamins may be harmful

Generally peoples think that Vitamins are essential for our daily healthy life it keeps out us away from hospitals and number of diseases. but as per scientific research mega dozes of vitamins and minerals may be harmful for our daily life.

In most cases Mega dozes of Vitamins  may be harmful

Beta-carotene some peoples takes as anti cancer antioxidant but its high doze can increase risk of lung cancer (in the form of vitamin A) is 3,000 IU for males and 2,130 IU for females.

Some women takes folic acid to reduce the risk of neural tube defects in newborns, some women take it while pregnant but high doz could be fueling rising rates of colon cancer.

Some people take selenium to prevent cancer, especially prostate cancer. But taking selenium could actually increase risk of high-grade prostate cancer in men who were already high in the mineral. it could also be one of the worst supplements for diabetes.

Some people take VITAMIN C to protect against the common cold, but a review of 30 clinical trials found no evidence that vitamin C prevents colds. There are some exceptions though: It may reduce the risk in people who live in cold climates or experience extreme physical stress.

Vitamin E— been thought to prevent heart disease, cancer, and Alzheimer's disease. elements , but high doses may increase the risk of strokes. 

There are claims that the mineral can prevent and treat symptoms of the common cold, but the evidence doesn't hold up. A few studies suggest that cold symptoms are less severe and resolve sooner in zinc users, but others show no benefit. Plus, high doses can actually weaken the immune system, so you might want to stick with these ways to treat a cold instead.

The signs and symptoms of lung cancer

The signs and symptoms of lung cancer can take years to develop and they may not appear until the disease is advanced.

1. When airways become constricted, blocked, or inflamed, 
2. Cough might be more painful
3. Cough have a different sound
4. Cough bring up colored mucus or phlegm
5. Coughing, especially if it persists or becomes intense
6. Pain in the chest, shoulder, or back unrelated to pain from coughing
7. A change in color or volume of sputum
8. Shortness of breath
9. Changes in the voice or being hoarse voice sounds deeper, hoarse, or raspier. 
10. Lung cancer that has spread to the bones may produce pain in the back or in other areas of the body. 
11. Recurrent lung problems, such as bronchitis or pneumonia
12. Coughing up phlegm or mucus, especially if it is tinged with blood
13. Headaches may be a sign that lung cancer has spread to the brain
14. Coughing up blood
15. You might have pain in your chest or shoulder. It could be a dull ache or a sharper pain.
16. Loss of appetite or unexplained weight loss
17. Muscle wasting (also known as cachexia)
18. Fatigue
19. Headaches, bone or joint pain
20. Bone fractures not related to accidental injury
21. Neurological symptoms, such as unsteady gait or memory loss
22. Neck or facial swelling
23. General weakness
24. Bleeding
25. Blood clots

Common Signs and symptoms of colon cancer

Common  Signs and symptoms of colon cancer

Bowel or colon cancer, is cancer in any part of the colon or rectum common symptoms of bowel cancer can include:

• A change in bowel habits, such as diarrhea, constipation, or narrowing of the stool, that lasts for more than a few days
• A feeling that you need to have a bowel movement that is not relieved by doing so
• Rectal bleeding
• Dark stools, or blood in the stool
• Weakness and fatigue
• Sometimes, the cancer can cause a blockage (obstruction) in the bowel
• Unintended weight loss
• Blood in the stool
• Pain in the right side of the abdomen or stomach
• Leg swelling
• Itching
• Abdominal swelling
• blood in, or on, your stools (bowel motions) – the blood may be bright red or dark
• pain in the tummy (abdomen) or back passage
• feeling that you haven’t emptied your bowel properly after a bowel motion
• unexplained tiredness.

Common symptoms of blood cancers

The common symptoms of blood cancers can include:

• Bleeding that’s not a part of your usual monthly cycle
• Unexplained weight loss
• The occurrence of fine rashes or dark spots throughout the body.
• The occurrence of sudden bouts of chill and night sweating.
• A fever that doesn’t go away and can't be explained
• A change in the size, shape, or color of a mole or other spot
• Feeling weak or breathless
• Easily bruise or bleed
• Difficulty while urinating
• extreme tiredness that won’t go away isn’t normal.
• trouble swallowing especially with vomiting or weight loss
• Enlarged lymph nodes
• Swollen stomach or abdominal discomfort
• Frequent and repeated infections
• Fever/night sweats
• Pain in bones/joints
• Itchy skin
• Bone pain (ribs/back)

Common signs and symptoms of a brain tumor

The signs and symptoms of a brain tumor vary greatly and depend on the brain tumor's size, location and rate of growth.

• Headaches, which may be severe and worsen with activity or in the early morning
• New onset or change in pattern of headaches.
• Single or multiple muscle twitches, jerks, spasms.
• Gradual loss of sensation or movement in an arm or a leg.
• Confusion in everyday matters and Problems balancing or walking
• Loss of consciousness and body tone, followed by twitching and relaxing muscles that are called contractions
• Unexplained nausea or vomiting Loss of control of body functions.
• After this type of seizure a person may be sleepy and experience a headache, confusion, weakness, numbness, and sore muscles.
• Change in sensation, vision, smell, and/or hearing without losing consciousness
• May cause a loss of awareness or a partial or total loss of consciousness
• May be associated with repetitive, unintentional movements, such as twitching
• Personality or memory changes
• Nausea or vomiting,Fatigue,Drowsiness,Sleep problems
• Memory problems,Changes in ability to walk or perform daily activities
• Symptoms that may be specific to the location of the tumor include:
• Pressure or headache near the tumor
• Loss of balance and difficulty with fine motor skills is linked with a tumor in the cerebellum.
• Changes in judgment, including loss of initiative, sluggishness, and muscle weakness or paralysis is associated with a tumor in the frontal lobe of the cerebrum.
• Partial or complete loss of vision is caused by a tumor in the occipital lobe or temporal lobe of the cerebrum.
• Changes in speech, hearing, memory, or emotional state, such as aggressiveness and problems understanding or retrieving words can develop from a tumor in the frontal and temporal lobe of the cerebrum.
• Altered perception of touch or pressure, arm or leg weakness on 1 side of the body, or confusion with left and right sides of the body are linked to a tumor in the frontal or parietal lobe of the cerebrum.
• Inability to look upward can be caused by a pineal gland tumor.
• Lactation, which is the secretion of breast milk and altered menstrual periods in women, and growth in hands and feet in adults are associated with a pituitary tumor.
• Difficulty swallowing, facial weakness or numbness, or double vision is a symptom of a tumor in the brain stem.
• Vision changes, including loss of part of the vision or double vision can be from a tumor in the temporal lobe, occipital lobe, or brain stem.
• Seizures. Motor seizures, also called convulsions, are sudden involuntary movements of a person’s muscles. People may experience different types of seizures, including myclonic and tonic-clonic (grand mal). Certain drugs can help prevent or control them.

Common stomach cancer symptoms

Some common stomach cancer symptoms may include:

1.     You might feel pain or a burning sensation when you        swallow, or your food may stick in your throat or chest.

2.     Lack of appetite or unexplained weight loss is a common    sign of cancer.

3.     Many stomach cancer patients experience a sense of  "fullness" in the upper abdomen after eating small meals.

4.     Vague discomfort in the abdomen, usually above the navel

5.     This is weight loss when you are not trying to lose weight.  Rarely, extreme weight loss can be a sign of an advanced  cancer.

6.     Low red blood cell count (anemia)

7.     Rarely, there is blood in the vomit. You may not be able to    see any blood if it is small amounts.

8.     Indigestion, heartburn or symptoms similar to an ulcer may  be signs of stomach cancer

9.     This can be because you have a reduced number of red  blood cells (anemia).

Never eat these foods for flat stomach

Stomach bloating is unfortunately a normal and natural part of life.

But some foods cause more bloat than others.

That's because many of these foods contain nutrients that our bodies can't digest, like lactose, a natural sugar that's found in dairy.

FODMAPs are another example. These short-chain carbohydrates can't be digested by the small intestine, so instead they end up in the large intestine, which is where they're fermented by bacteria. This fermentation process causes gas and bloating.

While not eating or drinking the foods and beverages listed below won't help you lose weight or get washboard abs, it will help you avoid bloating, and will thus have you looking leaner

Dairy
Dairy products like cheese and milk can cause digestion issues - especially if you're lactose intolerant or sensitive. Lactose is a natural sugar that's found in dairy products, and those who are lactose intolerant don't have the enzymes needed to break down this sugar.

Luckily, there are plenty of dairy substitutes out there, like soy or almond milk, which are ideal for those who are lactose intolerant or just looking to avoid dairy.

Calciferous vegetables

Broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, and kale all fall under the category of cruciferous vegetables. These foods are high in a number of nutrients like folate, vitamin C, and fiber. They're even thought to help prevent cancer.

But they also contain raffinose, a type of carbohydrate that our bodies can't break down because we lack a certain enzyme to do so. Instead, raffinose is fermented by bacteria, a primary cause of gas and bloating.

If you don't want to give up these vegetables, try roasting or steaming them to make them easier to digest.

Foods high in sodium


Our bodies' natural reaction to eating too much salt is to retain water, and when the body holds on to water, it bloats.

As a guideline, most healthy people should be capping their sodium intake at 2,300 mg per day. Those who have diabetes or high blood pressure, or who are over 50, should only be consuming 1,500 mg per day.

Packaged and processed foods, like canned soups, deli meats, and pre-made sauces, commonly contain large amounts of sodium.

Alcohol


Just like high-sodium foods, alcohol causes the body to retain water, leading to puffiness and bloating. Drinking can also trigger constipation, which leaves people feeling bloated as well.

Watermelon

It might be hard to believe that watermelon could do anything to your body, considering it's mostly water. But it contains plenty of fructose, a natural sugar that gives the fruit its sweetness. Many people are unable to absorb fructose, which is why watermelon can lead to bloating.
Legumes

Legumes refer to plants that grow fruit in the form of a pod. Examples include beans, peas, lentils, and soybeans. These foods are all high in fiber and protein, which is what makes them good for you, but also what makes them hard to digest.

Because legumes are packed with fiber that our bodies can't absorb, our gut bacteria goes to work on them instead, which causes gas and bloating.

To avoid this, try eating legumes with whole grains that are easy to digest like rice or quinoa, or soak dried beans overnight, which helps to break down non digestible fiber.

Yogurt


When it comes to yogurt, it all depends on what kind you're consuming. Plain yogurt can actually help your stomach because it contains probiotics, which are known to regulate digestion.

However, if you're eating flavored yogurt that's high in sugar, you'll have more fermentation going on in your body, which means more gas and bloating.

Propaganda ( A technique used to convert a lie into truth)

                                       

Here i wish  share a little bit of knowledge with you

we all are aware of  about the word propaganda generally it is said that a manipulative approach and  technique that is used to convert a lie into truth. 

Wikipedia defines as

 "Propaganda is information that is not objective and is used primarily to influence an audience and further an agenda, often by presenting facts selectively to encourage a particular synthesis or perception, or using loaded language to produce an emotional rather than a rational response to the information that is presented. Propaganda is often associated with material prepared by governments, but activist groups and companies can also produce propaganda.  "

Propaganda is always based on lie may be based on half truth

Mr.  Paul Craig Roberts  explains as in his article "  The Reign of Propaganda "

 "The more pure the lie, the more complete the success in turning it into The Truth. Lies partly based in fact or half-truths open themselves to factual challenge. For a propagandist the best lie is a lie unfettered by even a distant relationship to truth. Such a lie can be turned into such self-evident truth that no evidence is necessary. ” 

 Propaganda,is dissemination of information facts, arguments, rumors, half-truths, or lies—to influence public opinion. 

 it is also a systematic effort to manipulate other people’s beliefs, attitudes, or actions by means of symbols (words, gestures, banners, monuments, music, clothing, insignia, hairstyles, designs on coins and postage stamps, and so forth). 

 Modern propaganda uses all the media available to spread its message, including: press, radio, television, film, computers, fax machines, posters, meetings, door-to-door canvassing, handbills, buttons, billboards, speeches, flags, street names, monuments, coins, stamps, books, plays, comic strips, poetry, music, sporting events, cultural events, company reports, libraries, and awards and prizes. is most likely that some of these media uses are surprising, but that only serves to show how easy it is to not even recognize propaganda as such.

 Knowing that you are susceptible to propaganda is only part of the battle. Below are five things you can do to mitigate its impact on you:

1. Stop believing things unquestioningly. Just because it appears in your Facebook feed or was covered on the news, doesn’t make it true. Stop, question and think.
2. Identify the aim of the message. Did it make you feel a certain way? Is the message encouraging you to do or think something – if yes, what? Don’t you feel manipulated?
3. What is the source of the message? What do you know about them? Find out more. Who are they? What do they stand for? Who funds them? What is their aim?
4. List the arguments made through the message – can you think of any counter arguments? How much do you really know about the subject? Go learn more – from multiple sources. Fact check for accuracy. Every disgusting new disease warning is just a Snopes away from refute.
5. Listen to opposing views. Just because you think you are right, doesn’t make it so. Read the perspective from the other side, and try to suspend your ingrained views while doing it.

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References  

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Propaganda

https://web.stanford.edu/class/e297c/war_peace/media/hpropaganda.html

https://www.britannica.com/topic/propaganda#toc23827

http://www.paulcraigroberts.org/2017/07/20/the-reign-of-propaganda/